Dealing With The Competition: Handling The Other Guy

One of the hardest parts about playing the dating game is handling competition from other men. After all, there are lots of other guys out there looking to get a girl, and some of them arent afraid of messing up your chances to get what they want! To make things worse, they may have advantages over you in the form of their looks and wealth. It can be daunting. The fact is: You WILL have to face competition! The fear youll face when dealing with competition can be boiled down to two root causes - Insecurity and Jealousy. When you are insecure, youre always wondering if some other guy is going to come along and steal your girl. This often shows up as a combination of feelings that make you worry about losing your girl, and at the same time worrying about not being able to find another one if you DO lose her. Then, as if things werent bad enough, you go out with your girl, and other guys start hitting on her right in front of you. This triggers MORE insecurity, and then the REAL problem... JEALOUSY. These emotions take over your mind and body, and can trigger some of the most short-sighted behaviors youll ever experience. When you react to these feelings of jealousy and insecurity, you can actually DRIVE AWAY the woman you desire. Face it - most men are insecure, and every woman out there will tell you they dont want to be with a jealous freak! What do you do in this case? How do you deal with another man moving in on your girl? 1) Realize that theres nothing to be insecure and jealous about, and that these things only lead to fear and loss. 2) Get your game in shape with women. Get yourself to the point where you can meet women in ANY situation. This way you always know DEEP DOWN that if any woman youre with ever decides to leave, you can turn around and start meeting new women. This eliminates insecurity. 3) Mentally prepare. Take some time to imagine that youre in one of these situations, and notice the feelings you have. Go over it in your mind until you can think about it without having any negative emotions triggered. And if you ever find yourself in a situation where youre actually dealing with direct competition from another man - like hes hitting on your girl right in front of you, heres what you can do... 1) EXPECT IT. If you start dating hot women, other men WILL hit on them, GUARANTEED. Its part of life. You must expect that its going to happen and not be surprised when it does. 2) Learn how to have FUN with it. Most guys have no game at all, and its kind of funny to watch and listen to them. I enjoy watching guys try to meet women, because they FAIL miserably in most cases. I like to wait until a guy is finished trying to pick up on the girl Im with, and then get her to share the details so I can laugh. 3) Suggest that she date the guy whos hitting on her. One of my favorite things to do is say, "Hey, you guys would make a cute couple! I totally think you should go for him." Of course, this is all said in a light, fun way. 4) If you suspect that the girl youre with is actually TRYING to make you jealous, talk to other women. If you actually think that a woman is deliberately trying to make you jealous, you must do some thinking as well. Some women enjoy making men compete over them and you probably dont want to be with one of these women. Theyre a pain. But if you think its just a typical situation and the girl is trying to figure out if you "really" like her (because youll get jealous if you do), then just turn around and start a conversation with a group of girls, and wait for her to come and find you. The fact of the matter is, you have to get over these bad traits: fear, insecurity, jealousy, etc. Truth is, you have very little to be afraid of. The only power that another guy will have with your date stems from power that you allow them to have. If you act jealous, youre playing right into their hands. So dont extend them the courtesy of giving them a leg to stand on. They are hitting on your girl because they dont have one for themselves. Joseph Matthews has been teaching men how to meet women since 2004, and is widely known as an authority in the field of confidence building and dating advice. If you want to learn more about how to meet women, check out his complimentary newsletter.